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You Do Not Deserve Happiness

Depression is a gnarly beast. It tricks you into thinking you are unworthy & unloved. It tricks you by changing your brain & giving you that voice that tells you all the things you don’t deserve & shouldn’t strive toward. But, the one thing it gets right is that you do not deserve happiness. No one deserves happiness. It’s not something to be earned or worked toward in that way. Happiness isn’t some reward for… Read More »You Do Not Deserve Happiness

4 Things to Do Today to Start Your Year Over in February

I am glad January is finally over. Aren’t you? Frankly, it was kind of depressing — & I didn’t even fully realize it until now that it is over. That said, today marks a NEW month. A NEW opportunity to mold life into the experience we want it to be. AND, a NEW opportunity to shift our mindset & habits. I have seen it joked that February 1 is the NEW beginning to 2021. Maybe… Read More »4 Things to Do Today to Start Your Year Over in February

Zoning Out, Dissociation, & Mental Illness: What is the Connection?

There’s this symptom of several different mental illnesses that I’ve never really given much thought to. When you have this symptom, it can even be a mental disorder on its own, but most commonly, from what I have seen, it goes along with another diagnosis. The thing about it is that, at its most mild of inflictions, everyone has this symptom of mental illness. Pretty much anyone can identify a point in their life when… Read More »Zoning Out, Dissociation, & Mental Illness: What is the Connection?

40 Before 40 (in a Pandemic)

Hitting a milestone birthday is a weird mix between exciting & exhilarating. To determine which one the scale tips a bit more toward, I think it might depend on WHICH birthday we’re talking about… BUT, for me, there’s a lot of emotional baggage attached to my next couple of birthdays. So, my ultimate 40 before 40 list of things to accomplish before the age of 40 holds some extra personal meaning! There’s less than a… Read More »40 Before 40 (in a Pandemic)

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What If You Were Going to Be Dead in Just 2 Years?

I’m not really dying. Or, at least, I have no real reason to believe it. But, since I was a teenager, I’ve had this irrational belief that I wouldn’t make it to my 41st birthday. I just turned 39 years old. You do the math! So, what would you do if you were going to be dead in just 2 years?? When I was 16 years old, I got a phone call from my step… Read More »What If You Were Going to Be Dead in Just 2 Years?

Reta Jayne wearing a crown, I believe every year God gives us on this Earth is a reason to be celebrated, and my mama always said to celebrate your birthday all month long, and it's my birthday month. I celebrate my birthday all month long!

How I Celebrate My Birthday All Month Long

How do YOU celebrate YOUR birthday?? Going out dancing? Dinner out with family? Something entirely different? For me, it’s most definitely morphed over the years, but one thing that’s stayed fairly constant is that I celebrate my birthday ALL month long! This doesn’t mean I literally wear a crown around… BUT, I could. 😉 And it’s not about vanity. I swear! It’s about actually celebrating YOU. It’s about taking some intentional time to reflect on… Read More »How I Celebrate My Birthday All Month Long

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Should I Tell People About My Bipolar (or other Mental Health Issue)?

When you’ve been diagnosed with some kind of mental health issue, your first emotions are probably a mixture of fright, confusion, defeat, & even shame. You might think, Should I tell people about my bipolar disorder? How could I even fathom sharing such a thing? When I first got my bipolar disorder diagnosis, I certainly had a mix of all of those. But, I also had a sense of relief because I had a label… Read More »Should I Tell People About My Bipolar (or other Mental Health Issue)?

10 things to do today to keep coronavirus fear away

10 Things to Do Today to Keep Coronavirus Fear Away

You can’t turn on the television or radio or jump onto social media without seeing something about the coronavirus pop up. There are jokes, questions, rants, & everything in between. And, whether you believe it is all fear-mongering or totally true, the fact is, severe acute respiratory syndrome coronavirus 2 (SARSCoV2) — the name of the virus that CAUSES coronavirus disease 2019 (COVID-19) — is totally real & is definitely spreading. But, still, we do not need to be afraid. There are things we can do to keep coronavirus fear away.

10 things to do today to keep coronavirus fear away
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5 Healthy Tips for Dealing with the Aftermath of Life’s Storms

All major storms have some kind of aftermath. Sometimes, it’s flooding or piles of rubble. Other times, it’s just a few broken branches in the street & water flowing through the gutters. But, I can’t think of a time I’ve ever seen a storm come & go without there being evidence of its severity once it’s gone. Can you? Dealing with the aftermath of life’s storms isn’t so different.

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