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3 Incredible Ways Hobbies Improve Mental Health

Having something you’re passionate about is a necessity. I know some people think of excitement & things we do for pleasure as luxuries. But, the reality is that hobbies improve mental health. Are there more important things to worry about? Of course. We need a roof over our heads & food in our bellies. We need to feel like we aren’t on guard at all hours of the day. But, we also need to feel… Read More »3 Incredible Ways Hobbies Improve Mental Health

You Do Not Deserve Happiness

Depression is a gnarly beast. It tricks you into thinking you are unworthy & unloved. It tricks you by changing your brain & giving you that voice that tells you all the things you don’t deserve & shouldn’t strive toward. But, the one thing it gets right is that you do not deserve happiness. No one deserves happiness. It’s not something to be earned or worked toward in that way. Happiness isn’t some reward for… Read More »You Do Not Deserve Happiness

Living with Acute Myelogenous Leukemia as Told by my Mom

This is a straight-up “copy & paste” (with just minor formatting) from the site “Purple Plum’s Cyber Puddle,” last updated by my mother, Denise (or affectionately nicknamed “Pie”), in September of 1998. This is my mom’s account of living with Acute Myelogenous Leukemia (AML) story — her “AML Adventure” — in her own words. On the 11th of April, 1998, I wasn’t feeling well. It was the day before Easter and I tried to ignore… Read More »Living with Acute Myelogenous Leukemia as Told by my Mom

Write a Love Letter to Yourself

On my list of 40 things to accomplish before my 40th birthday (coming up at the end of this year), written in no particular order is Number 8 on the list: “Write a love letter to myself.” Who would say this? Write a love letter to yourself. But why? What could it possibly accomplish? I wrote that list about a month ago & I have tried to convince myself of just how SILLY the whole… Read More »Write a Love Letter to Yourself

4 Things to Do Today to Start Your Year Over in February

I am glad January is finally over. Aren’t you? Frankly, it was kind of depressing — & I didn’t even fully realize it until now that it is over. That said, today marks a NEW month. A NEW opportunity to mold life into the experience we want it to be. AND, a NEW opportunity to shift our mindset & habits. I have seen it joked that February 1 is the NEW beginning to 2021. Maybe… Read More »4 Things to Do Today to Start Your Year Over in February

40 Before 40 (in a Pandemic)

Hitting a milestone birthday is a weird mix between exciting & exhilarating. To determine which one the scale tips a bit more toward, I think it might depend on WHICH birthday we’re talking about… BUT, for me, there’s a lot of emotional baggage attached to my next couple of birthdays. So, my ultimate 40 before 40 list of things to accomplish before the age of 40 holds some extra personal meaning! There’s less than a… Read More »40 Before 40 (in a Pandemic)

what would you do if you knew you would be dead in just 2 years? The family took a photo on Easter Day 1998. "Pie" was mom's nickname. Get Well Pie.

What If You Were Going to Be Dead in Just 2 Years?

I’m not really dying. Or, at least, I have no real reason to believe it. But, since I was a teenager, I’ve had this irrational belief that I wouldn’t make it to my 41st birthday. I just turned 39 years old. You do the math! So, what would you do if you were going to be dead in just 2 years?? When I was 16 years old, I got a phone call from my step… Read More »What If You Were Going to Be Dead in Just 2 Years?

Reta Jayne wearing a crown, I believe every year God gives us on this Earth is a reason to be celebrated, and my mama always said to celebrate your birthday all month long, and it's my birthday month. I celebrate my birthday all month long!

How I Celebrate My Birthday All Month Long

How do YOU celebrate YOUR birthday?? Going out dancing? Dinner out with family? Something entirely different? For me, it’s most definitely morphed over the years, but one thing that’s stayed fairly constant is that I celebrate my birthday ALL month long! This doesn’t mean I literally wear a crown around… BUT, I could. 😉 And it’s not about vanity. I swear! It’s about actually celebrating YOU. It’s about taking some intentional time to reflect on… Read More »How I Celebrate My Birthday All Month Long

reta jayne, should i tell people about my bipolar disorder

Should I Tell People About My Bipolar (or other Mental Health Issue)?

When you’ve been diagnosed with some kind of mental health issue, your first emotions are probably a mixture of fright, confusion, defeat, & even shame. You might think, Should I tell people about my bipolar disorder? How could I even fathom sharing such a thing? When I first got my bipolar disorder diagnosis, I certainly had a mix of all of those. But, I also had a sense of relief because I had a label… Read More »Should I Tell People About My Bipolar (or other Mental Health Issue)?

your past does not define you, it is only part of your story, confidence & chaos, reta jayne, from the heart of pie

Your Past Does Not Define You; It Is Only Part of Your Story

There are moments in life that mark a very clear before & after. It’s a point in your life’s timeline when, in looking back, you can clearly see a remarkable change as a result of an event. Do you know the types of events I am talking about? Some are devastating. But some are so wonderful. The thing they all have in common, however, is that they are life-altering events that lead to regret if we’re not careful. What we need to remember is that your past does not define you. It can’t possibly give a clear picture of who you are; it’s just part of your story.

your past does not define you, it is only part of your story, confidence & chaos, reta jayne, from the heart of pie
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