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Recently, I had a falling out (of sorts) with someone I deeply care about. . . Things are strained between us — & that's putting it mildly. The other party has recently eased into small interactions. . . But I just cannot let things go so easily this time. I really feel that an acknowledgement of what has transpired is more than reasonable to expect — as is an apology. Unfortunately, I think pigs will fly before the apology comes, but that's not to say that I think an acknowledgement will come either — at least not without finger-pointing, rather than personal responsibility. That's the sad part.
The handsome husband, I think, is more pissed off about this whole situation than I am — & I am pretty pissed! He saw me cry about this altercation. . . And, there's not much more that'll get him worked up than my tears, (especially when he didn't have some kind of control where they're concerned). . . I feel as if this other party is forcing me to choose between them & the handsome husband. . . This is preposterous! I am highly offended; obviously!
One of my confidants has expressed the opinion, flat-out, that this is an unfair position that this person has put me in. What a crappy thing to do! (There were a few other choice words that I got a chuckle out of, but I won't share, if for no other reason than it would give this person's identity away to those that know us personally!) My brain keeps telling me to hold my ground — as does another confidant, along with the handsome husband. But, I do miss this person — at least I miss this person when they're being sincere, open-minded, loving, & supportive, rather than the closed-minded, self-serving, attention-hoarding version of themselves that so many have grown to know under the ruse of being a “positive” person who has overcome so many obstacles. . .
I am frustrated beyond measure! Normally I would tackle the problem head-on & if that didn't work, I would leave it in my dust. . . I don't feel I can do either in this particular case. SO, I am doing my best to ignore the situation (& in turn, this particular person) but it cannot go on like this forever. . . It is just a matter of time before I either completely cave or this person pisses me off to a point that's irreparable. . . Because, like I said, I just don't see any personal responsibility taking place, much less a — GASP! — apology. . . One can dream. . . OR, pigs could fly.
I’m sorry you are going through a difficult time. It sounds like you have a wonderful husband to help you through it. Hopefully things can get worked out before “pigs fly”. 🙂
I sincerely hope so too. Thank you for your kind words, Kara. And thank you for taking the time. 😉
I had a falling out with one of my dearest friends that lives in another state. It is so frustrating when the person just can’t or won’t see that they are in the wrong. We haven’t spoken in several years and i have moved on but it still makes me sad to think about it. I hope you find a resolution but if it comes down to standing up for yourself or your husband then stay strong. Good luck!
Thank you so much for sharing! This makes me sick, just thinking about it. . . I sincerely hope it doesn’t come to that. . . Time will tell. Thank you.
Oh I hate situations like this! So sorry and thanks for sharing so candidly xo
Yes; it is a highly frustrating situation, indeed. . . Constantly on my mind. Thank you for taking a few moments. 😉
((HUGS))) Reta! The only thing we can control is ourselves, eh? And sometimes even that’s a stretch 🙂
“And sometimes even that’s a stretch.” Ain’t THAT the truth?! Oh my. . . Thank you. I think I needed that hug! 😉
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First of all I want to say excellent blog! I had a quick question which I’d like
to ask if you don’t mind. I was interested to knnow how you center yourself and clear your thoughts
before writing. I have had a difficult time clearing my thoughts
in getting my thoughts out. I ddo enjoy writing but it just seems like the first
10 to 15 minutes are generally lost ust trying to figuee out how to begin. Any ideas or tips?
Thank you fro the compliment! Honestly, I just start to write. I try not to worry about the order of things or how they sound or any of that stuff. I just get the words onto my screen. Think of it as a first draft. THEN, once I feel my thoughts are on the screen, I will cut & paste & delete & add to my thoughts to make them more coherent. Many times, there’s another draft or two before I am alright with it enough to hit that “Publish” button. I hope that helps? 😉
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